Designing A Life: Intention
I woke up one day a few years back feeling the creeping weight of an impending depression. My career wasn’t going where I wanted and my lovely friends didn’t have the same interests I did, so I felt restless and lonely. I had a long-standing vision of what I wanted my life to look like, but my life was NOTHING like that vision.
I think many of us find this place occasionally, if we slow down to notice. Luckily, I realized quickly I was in a rut because I wasn’t being intentional about my choices. It was leading me to a fine place in life, but not to my best life. So I took personality tests and wrote a lot and explored who I wanted to become. It’s amazing how quickly the world opens up with the light of a little awareness!
After that, my mantra became INTENTION. If I wanted to be healthier, I had to eat well and exercise. I aspired to be organized, so I spent weekends cleaning out the pack-rat corners of my home and reducing the clutter to only what I love to look at or know I will use. I joined local creative groups and met people to explore new hobbies with. I wanted to develop new skills and do more interesting design work, so I started a branding company with fun and inspiring clients. It took time, self control, discipline and other boring grown up stuff, but I can honestly say I am happier now and my life is heading in a direction that truly excites me.
This year, Mr. Elleby and I will finally buy our first house. We’ve begun our search, and I’m spending quite a lot of time talking with him about our goals, thinking about our functional needs and style, driving through new neighborhoods, and trying to apply the same ideal of intention to our purchase. We see lots of houses that would suit fine, but we want to be particularly thoughtful and careful in choosing a place that supports the life we live and the one we want for ourselves and our future family.
I hope you’ll play along with us this year as we search for our house, and then make it a home. I’m sure there will be LOTS of fun design projects along the way!